Beyond the Twin Flame Dynamic

Since arriving here in Egypt, most the new clients I've started working with have come to me for assistance in freeing themselves from what they term a Twin Flame counterpart.

After years (in some cases) of waiting for physical union and/or trying to break free from co-dependency, they have finally had enough.

Personally, I have never quite been able to resonate with the Twin Flame label, despite it having an immensely romantic allure to it that can call upon the deepest longings of many to fill a void within. One that speaks directly to those childhood fantasies of a happily ever after both in the individual and collective (un)consciousness and reaches into that core soul pain from perceived seperation from the Source from which we came. It has been a term and concept misused by many to attract followers and clients who wish to "attract" and "unite" with their "Twin Flame counterpart".

Let us begin by removing the label all together.

From observation of those caught up in twin flame connections, lets take a deeper look at the dynamics truly being played out here. We see a lot of unhealthy, distorted, Old Earth relationship templates and dynamics such as co-dependency, addiction (to another person), unhealthy attachment, obsession, unrequited love, unavailability, runner-chaser dynamics, abuse, enabling, manipulation, breadcrumbing, trauma bonding, emotional immaturity, spiritual bypassing, denial, (self) betrayal, unconscious relating from our unacknowledged/unintegrated wounded aspects and coming from a place of lack within.

Yet for many of those stuck in the loop of it, it all gets beautifully justified (spiritually bypassed) as being an opportunity to engage in spiritual growth and self mastery and learn about unconditional love, no matter how unfulfilled, used and abused they may feel. "Just one look and I turn to jelly - the love is just so immense", said one woman to me as she explained why she continues to tolerate poor behaviour from the man she described as being her twin flame counterpart.

To clarify, a twin flame connection can be described as being one of those connections that opens, expands and activates our hearts and energetic fields faster than any others. They can also get under our skin and trigger us more so than any other connection. Potentially, this can serve as a catalyst in our own evolutionary process - if we are open and aware and are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility for our part. If not, these connections can turn into a hellish roller coaster ride, trauma bond and dark night of the soul.

A connection with a twin may always be there, yet there comes a point when we are truly ready to evolve out of it into Sacred Union partnerships, which hold New Earth relationship templating and no longer involve karmic timelines. For that to occur, we first need to cultivate our own Inner Sacred Union. More on that later.

Myself, I too was once caught up in a twin flame dynamic for years, though interestingly at the time, I had not even heard about the concept of a twin flame. There was a man I had met in a spiritual community I was part of. We shared the most powerful telepathic, psychic and spiritual connection, from even miles away, activating each others kundalini through an intensely psycho-spiritual-sexual connection, though we never even made love physically in this dimension of existence!

We both "recognised" each other from many lifetimes together and both felt we were already "married in Spirit" to one another and that our connection would never end.

The love I felt in my heart was so profound, like nothing I'd ever experienced before and when we were together, working on creative projects in the community, our energy was limitless. Superhuman in fact. Our connection awakened some deep ancient place and memories in me that I didn't even know I had. When we looked into each others eyes, we could see into each others Soul's....and it felt like home.

However, the spiritual community we were part of did not want for us to be together. To cut a long story short, I had to leave the community whereas he stayed in it. We tried to continue seeing each other covertly, but the pressure it put on our connection and the tactics some of the community were using to tear us apart and create distrust between us was immense.

For years I waitted for this man, feeling I just could not move on because our spiritual connection was too strong. I could not even leave the country for more than 2 weeks at a time because of the pain of separation.

The connection haunted me and brought up obsession, unhealed abandonment wounds, childhood trauma, rage and so much more. From this man I began to experience emotional betrayal, and abuse, blame and projection, breadcrumbing and push-and-pull game playing. Neither of us could fully let each other go.

For years I could not comprehend how something once so deeply sacred, profound and powerful with a love beyond anything I'd known before, could turn into such a dark night of the soul and not result in physical union. For years, every day felt like waking up to living nightmare. Yet still, I just could not imagine us not ending up together eventually.

During those years of "waiting" for him and feeling like I did not even have a choice in being able to move on because the spiritual connection was so strong, I began to learn about and delve into healing the abandonment wound, co-dependency, the inner child/teenager, the shadow, inherited ancestral patterns of relating and beliefs about men and women, past-life regression and healing, family constellations and conscious relating.

These were all vital stages in evolving out of the twin flame dynamic. Each of these take the focus away from that partner and/or relationship we so want or feel is supposed to happen and back to our inner relationship with ourselves and the many aspects we embody.

Twin flame connections do assist us in an accelerated way in becoming aware of old (Old Earth) programming and templating, by bringing them up to the surface to be released. To become conscious, we need to be able to open our hearts and be willing to shift our perspectives and deal with things in a different way then we're used to. It also requires us to shift out of 3D victim-persecutor consciousness.

In many ways, one can liken the process of liberating ourselves from the twin flame program to liberating ourselves from the false matrix, it goes that deep!

In truth, there is no-one outside of ourselves and separation is an illusion. The "other" exists inside of you and is in your outer world to show you either an energetically unintegrated and disowned aspect of yourself (the positive and the negative).

Growth isn't always comfortable and neither is recognising the ways in which we may have been in denial and lying to ourselves, mistaking breadcrumbs for love because its what feels familiar (and hence "safe"), attracting and relating from a place of lack/wounding/unconsciousness, rather than wholeness and self-love.

Yet this is the gift and the invitation. I know what it is like. I have been there and felt convinced it would never end, no matter what I tried, year after year after year. People around me could not understand the nature of our connection and what I was experiencing - the concept of "Twin Flame" wasn't yet a buzz word like it is now.

Yet the more I commited to myself and my own healing journey and learned to fill my own cup and tend to my Inner Sacred Union and innate Divinity, things began to shift and fall away.

As a woman, consciously re-connecting with and becoming a vessel of the Divine Feminine as well as the wisdom of my womb space were key as well in learning to fill my own cup and in embodying that which I was seeking/longing for outside of myself. I learned that when we attract from a place of lack, we are entering into a karmic relationship. Whereas when we magnetise from a place of inner wholeness and the ability to fill our own cup, we attract a higher, New Earth form of conscious Sacred Union partnership.

The icing on the cake was when I experienced my own Inner Sacred Union ceremony, facilitated by a Tantrica and Priestess of Rhiannon. In our modern lives, we forget the power of rites of passage and the power of being witnessed by another.

That was when I truly learned what it meant to embody Inner Sacred Union templating of New Earth relationships, for as we evolve, so do our relationships. Inner Sacred Union is not only about unitfying the inner feminine and masculine, but also the human and the Divine, the inner child and the inner parent, the light and the shadow...and so much more.

If you are extremely attached to someone or in the grief stage of not being able to be together and are finding it hard to let go, I want to share with you something that assisted me deeply in my healing journey. When we are able to release our attachment to someone we truly love but that for whatever reason cannot or does not wish to be in our lives, we are creating space for something far better. Focus on the essence of what you want to truly experience in your life in terms of partnership (or anything for that matter), rather than a specific form.

Sometimes, the essence we loved so much in a previous partner, returns to us, albeit in a higher version, in another partner, i.e. another form. As we shift into our higher timelines, we will also attract more of those on their higher timelines.

Should you wish more support in embodying your own Inner Sacred Union, I offer one on one in-person Inner Sacred Union ceremonies as well as in-person and/or online Sacred Union mentoring/coaching/healing sessions.

Alternatively, for those who prefer to do things on their own at this stage of their journey, I have several Sacred Union transmissions on my Etsy shop:

https://magdalenerosehealing.etsy.com

Lovingly,

xx Jasmin